Finding Happiness When Things Don't Go As Planned

I used to think that my happiness was directly related to the outcomes of the things I did. For example, if someone said something mean about me, I'd feel sad. But now I know that my happiness does not depend on what happens to me.

We must detach our minds' emotional reaction (i.e., disappointment) towards an event's outcome, while still acknowledging its occurrence so that we can be happy regardless of what happens.

It is important for us not only to understand this but also to practice detaching ourselves emotionally when necessary, so as to ensure contentment even during difficult times.

This means accepting what has happened without further judgment and detaching oneself from any negative emotional reactions.

I get it: This goes against everything that is naturally inside of you. Many times, we feel like "if things don't go my way, I have every right to be upset and disappointed," and while that is true, you do have every right - it doesn't help you in the end!

However, Our emotions become harsher as a result of this action and that leads to even more frustration on both sides of the experience. It's not worth it when considering how much time passes before any sort of calm returns to your life. Sometimes we need to step back from what has failed us and take a few deep breaths before making any rash decisions pertaining to what happened.

The detaching of emotions is a personal choice. It has nothing to do with "how things turn out."

It's possible to choose how we feel in those moments.

It might not be easy sometimes to detach from our feelings - especially when they are so intense and painful. But I'm telling you now, you can get through this too if you just stay detached for a little while longer!

We don't need other people or things to make us happy. You can create your happiness.

Don't forget: You deserve happiness!

Your value, your worth and happiness come from within. It is too easy to base these things on success, performance or outcomes but they are much more complicated than that.

You can find strength even if the world doesn't go your way; you just have to know where it comes from first!

It's something that can be developed over time.

Life is hard. Everyone faces challenges and difficulties, but if you pay attention to the good in your life with a mindful approach, it will help make things easier on those tough days when everything seems bleak.

In finding true happiness, we need to detach our emotions from the things that are happening in our life and not let them determine how we feel about ourselves.

It's too easy for us to rely on others or external factors in order to give ourselves value when it actually comes from within! You deserve happiness!

Find ways to appreciate what makes you happy every day even if it is small.

Try new activities, take up new hobbies, find something you enjoy doing and you'll find happiness that comes from doing it, even if it's not performance-based.

Doing the things that we love, finding out what is important to us, and doing it every day will make life so much easier.

It's not always easy finding true happiness when everything doesn't go as planned but you have to be your own advocate in order to find peace of mind.

If you’ve been having a tough time in your business, it might be because you’re relying on external factors to bring happiness into your life.

The truth is that we have the power to create our own happiness and once we find what makes us happy every day, success will come easier than ever before. What are some of the things outside of work that make you feel good?

How can using these activities help improve your business performance?

Schedule a free 45 minute call with me today so I can answer all of your questions about how this strategy could work for you at: jeremiahkrakowski.com/freecall

How To Handle Jerks In Business

Jerks in business are inevitable. If you're in the game, there's a good chance that someone will be mean to you. They'll attack your products and services and try to tear them apart because they're insecure about their own lives.

You can't control what people do or say, but it doesn't have to get inside your head!

If you can learn to control your own emotions, you will be much further ahead.

The worst part of dealing with jerks in business is they can distract you from profit-producing activities.

The time that you could be spending building your business and getting sales is now spent handling the opinions of others.

Even if you have the most integrity in the world, people will do this. The more products you sell, the worse it'll get!

One thing we have to work through is the fear that we experience with these jerks.

It's important to process why we are so afraid of how people treat us and why we are trying so hard to manage others’ emotions.

It's not your job as a business owner to make people happy. You want to make your customers happy, but worrying about people's emotional reactions isn't your job.

This doesn't mean that we become jerks in response, or that we act belligerent - or try to provoke people at all. That's ridiculous.

But at the end of the day, we can't allow the fear of what others might say or do to us to stop us from building our businesses.

You have to train yourself to just ignore the jerks when they come in. They aren't worth your energy or focus.

There's no moment in time where it's beneficial for you to defend yourself against these people's opinions, and you should probably just move on!

You don't have to spend energy fighting back - putting them in their place or anything. Just focus on what you're building.

When you shift your energy away from defending yourself against people's attacks and towards building your future, you are able to accomplish far more than you ever imagined possible!

I know it can be hard sometimes but just keep at it.

You'll get to a place where you don't care what others think about you - and that will make your life so much easier!

When people attack you and try to tear apart the things you've built, here's how I would deal with them:

Ignore Them Completely!

You don't have time to entertain their opinions on anything or respond in any way. They aren't worth your time or energy.

Don't Feed The Trolls!

Most of these people are looking for attention anyway! Responding is sure to bring more negativity, ignoring them altogether works wonders.

Block Them!

You can't control what people do or say, but you can choose what you do about it. Don't waste time on these kinds of people - block them and move on with your day!

Don't Let Them Get to You!

Dealing with jerks in business is inevitable, but it doesn't have to be a problem! There are plenty of examples of people making money while handling the opinions of strangers.

You can get there too. Just focus on what's important and ignore everyone else!

The Fear Of Asking For Help

Some of us feel like we're a burden to others when it's time to ask for help with our goals and desires. We let this fear keep us from ever asking anyone, which is really unfortunate because having someone in your life that can guide you on the journey towards what's important, is invaluable.

We can't accomplish our goals without getting guidance from others to point us in the right direction.

There are many reasons why people don’t ask for help to start on their goals. One of the main ones is that they feel embarrassed because it feels like a sign of weakness.

It becomes a mental conflict between wanting safety vs. adventure; one where there would be no risk involved in exposing themselves as someone who lacks knowledge if things go wrong.

The fear can be so strong sometimes that even starting to ask about what you should do next becomes daunting, when faced with uncertainty over questions like “What if I'm missing something? What does my family think? Will somebody judge me harshly?"

It's almost as though they're paralyzed and the fear of asking for help outweighs their desire to grow.

Often the story of many would-be entrepreneurs stops here... Never to continue again.

The thing that separates successful people from those who let their fear control them is not stopping here! No one who was successful ever let this fear stop them.

Those who let themselves be paralyzed by the fear of not being knowledgeable often don't go any further.

The ones who are successful never let "not knowing something" keep them stuck from moving forward.

To be successful, you need to keep moving forward, regardless of how much you know.

Those who let fear stop them rarely get anywhere in life because they're stuck at the first step and refuse to go any further out of fear that there's something else they don't know yet.

Successful people are different; when faced with a challenge or setback, their negative emotions kick into high gear so as not to prevent themselves from getting somewhere great--they use those feelings for motivation, instead!

It's natural to have a fear of failure. We're human and that's just the way it is. But what separates those who achieve their dreams from those who don't, are people with the courage to keep going even when they feel afraid or overwhelmed by obstacles in front of them.

If you've been feeling stuck lately because your fears are preventing you from moving forward, I can help!

Schedule a free 45-minute call with me to learn how you can break past your fear to get results in your business: jeremiahkrakowski.com/freecall

Being Smart Won’t Make You More Successful In Business

When I start coaching people – I often find that they have a pattern in their life of needing to know everything in order to survive.

Many of my clients feel they must have all the answers before they are “good enough” to launch their business.

This usually comes from past experiences where they needed to have all the answers in order to be safe and secure. This may have even come in through past trauma in childhood or during school. Those experiences taught them that without having all the answers, they are inadequate and worth less than other people.

This pattern of thinking is a mindset block that hinders us from taking action in our businesses.

We are constantly trying to validate that we have the answers to every problem.

We are constantly trying to validate that we are smart enough to reach our business goals.

The truth is, being smart is only a hindrance to reaching business goals. I’ve never seen it help anyone and yet many people are constantly striving to have enough knowledge to reach their business goals.

What matters most is taking imperfect action and doing the very basic activities! You don’t have to know everything – or even how everything works, you just have to get started moving towards your goals.

We have to break up with our constant need for validation and approval from others and ourselves, based on how smart we are.

You don’t have to know everything to be successful! In fact it’s better if you didn’t!

You will be more successful by finding others who are smarter than you and working with them!

As a business owner, none of us have the mental capacity to know everything because we need to dedicate our energy towards what gets the most results.

Take swift action and make decisions as fast as possible. Even without all the answers. This is how you will reach your financial goals.

If you need help knowing what to do in your business to reach your financial goals, schedule a free 45 minute call with me at: jeremiahkrakowski.com/freecall

Saving Time When Building Your Business

I often hear people say that they lack time to build their business. I personally don’t believe this is true.

I think they lack the ability to prioritize their time, lack of knowledge for ways to say no – and often lack taking ownership for their choices.

This may sound harsh, but we have to move away from blaming outside circumstances for why things aren’t going how we want.

You are the one in control of what you do every day. You are not a victim. None of us are!

We all have the ability to shift and adjust our schedule if we want to. It might not be immediately, but it could be 6 months from now or even a year!

Some great tools that I use to help me save time when building my business are below:

HopperHQ: Scheduling app for scheduling my social media content. This allows me to open this app up and schedule all my content ahead of time.

Onestream.Live: I use this to schedule LIVE videos on Facebook and Youtube to go live every day. Then I can pre-record my content.

Calendly: This saves me time from back and forth scheduling with contacts and clients about what time I have available.

Virtual Assistant: Hire a VA to help you with the tasks you need help with that are repetitive in your business.

Conversion.ai: This is an artificial intelligence app that helps you write all your marketing copy! Get a free trial here: conversion.ai/free-trial?fpr=jeremykrak

After using some of these tools, the next thing you want to do is find out what to eliminate from your life.

• What activities are you doing every day that you can stop doing?

• What is sucking your time away that you could be spending building your business?

• Why do you have to do those things every day?

• What can you shift and adjust in your life?

When you get really honest with yourself about those questions, you will usually discover about 10% of your life that you can move around to make room for your business activities.

It’s going to take you time, but it’s worth it.

You’re not a victim or a prisoner to the amount of time you have in your life. It’s possible to prioritize things and shift them around to make room for you to build your business.

As a business owner you have to start working like a professional.

I’m always looking for ways to optimize my life and the time it takes for me to do things.

There’s no excuse for “lack of time” when optimization can save you hours.

We have to be intentional to create this optimization in our lives.

Make a choice to figure out where you can optimize your time and you will be able to get far more done in your business on a daily basis!

Successfully Dealing With The Opinions Of Your Friends and Family About Your Business

Everyone has opinions. It doesn't mean we have to listen to them.

When building your business, you're going to get many opinions about what you're doing from people.

You have to become really good at shutting out the noise from people who don't have experience and success, doing what you're doing.

People mean well - people you respect, friends and family - and they want to see you succeed, but they also don't want to see you get hurt.

One of the most important rules is do not spend time engaging with people who have negative opinions about what you're doing or try to knock down your dreams.

Seek out advice and wisdom from people who have experience doing what you're trying to do.

This challenges the way 99% of people live their life, always seeking the opinions of their friends and family.

Truth is, for you to be a successful business owner you're going to have to break free from your need to listen to other people’s opinions about what you're doing.

This may be hard but if you can grow in confidence and believe in what you are doing, you won’t need that validation.

They may convince you that you are neglecting them by not considering their opinion, you may even have family and friends angry with you and saying that you changed.

If you want to reach your goals as a business owner, you have to give up the need to be validated and approved by others. Even those closest to you.

I don't think you should end relationships with people close to you, but just leave certain topics off the table to discuss.

At the same time, find some people who are doing what you set out to do! Get some mentors and colleagues! Social media is a great place to do this, but beware - even people online present themselves as experts and really aren't. They just have many meaningless opinions.

Take a look at someone's track record. What have they accomplished? What have they done?

Has someone built a business to 7 figures like you want to - or do they just talk about it?

Pay attention to what people are doing, not just merely what they are saying, and learn from those who have done what you set out to do.

I've been helping companies grow to 8 figures and beyond for the last 17 years and would love to help you grow your business by getting more sales, leads, customers and clients online. Schedule a free call with me at jeremiahkrakowski.com/freecall and let's talk about taking your business sales to the next level!